June 16, 2016

Vicar’s Column


Congregational Care: When A Loved One Dies

When my mother died at the end of February, Jan and Bob Tarr gave our family Doug Manning’s “Special Care Series,” four 24-page booklets designed to be read or sent to someone the third week, third month, sixth month and eleventh month following the death of a loved one. Jan suggested I space the books out rather than read all four at once. Naturally, I read the whole series the first month! Manning’s words offered comfort and support even without spacing out the books.

In Book 1, Discovering Permission to Grieve, the author assures us that grief is a natural response to any loss. We need to grieve; internalizing grief leads to depression and other ills. 

In the second book, Discovering Significance, Manning gives examples of why we need to talk about the person we have lost. By telling their story we establish their significance and what their loss means to us personally. 

In Book 3, Discovering Understanding, the author says, “When we hurt, all of the explanations and words of comfort can never replace one friend who simply understands.” Feeling understood is the beginning of healing. We also come to understand ourselves better as we share with a friend. 

The final book, Discovering Comfort, takes a look back at the first year after the person’s death and recognizes that the hurt may not have gone away. In the words of Gregory Walton, “Comfort is like a door to the heart that can only be unlocked from the inside.”

The Special Care Series set (In-Sight Books, Inc., 2003) comes with envelopes for mailing and a record card to keep track of when to send each book. One set is available for checkout in our Congregational Care Library. Sets may be purchased at Insight Books or Amazon.

Phyllis Mannan
Congregational Care Coordinator



Can You Do Dishes?

The Altar Guild is looking for a few new members to help with set up and clean up for communion each week. Currently Becky Berg, Janet Lease, Terri Maragos, and Ginny Larson share the duties of preparing the altar for services.  Becky says, “It is a a very spiritual experience to prepare the altar for our encounter with God in Eucharist.” Becky will work with you to help you feel comfortable with the duties. The schedule can be planned so you don’t miss trips or family visits. It is a ministry for men and women and young people. Usually set up is on Saturday, with transition between services and clean up on Sunday.

Contact Becky Berg at church or by email or phone.



Your Help Is Needed

As we deepen our partnership with our local elementary, we will increasingly have an opportunity to help with the needs of many of the children in our area. This week, we are invited to help an 8  year old boy who is having a very hard time. He is in desperate need of clothes/shoes.

Anything off this list would help:
Size 9 boy clothes (Swim trunks, underwear, socks, T-shirts, jeans, flip flops and size 5 sneakers).

Thank you!



Weeding Continues

Our abundance of weeds need your attention. Come on Saturdays after 9:00 AM for a couple of hours and help get the grounds ready for summer.

Bill Larson
Junior Warden  




Keeping Summer Holy

Kay Stoltz has a new essay at our Reflections site. It has also been published at Episcopal Café, a national Episcopal  independent news source. Congratulations Kay. Read her reflection here.



More Graduations

Alejandro Quintana graduates from Southwestern Community College in Coos Bay. He will continue his studies at Western Oregon University.

Congratulations to Nick Oliver, son of Molly and Scott Oliver who graduated from Oregon State University on Saturday June 11.








Pick Up a Copy of the Directory

Yes — the directory of members of St Catherine’s is ready for you to pick up if you wish to have a copy. Copies are on the table in the narthex (entry). Thanks to Ginny Larson, Kristin Fontaine and Ann+